Valentine's Day: Celebration of Love & How It All Began

As Valentine’s Day 2019 approaches, lovers are preparing to celebrate love and romance in their own, original way. Celebrated on February the 14th around the world, especially in Western cultures, as a day of love and affection, Valentine’s Day holds a strong tradition of showing our special someone that we care. It honours one or two saints who carried the name Valentine and were associated as protectors of love or even lovers themselves.

How it all began

The month of February has been celebrated as a month of love since ancient times and the history of Valentine’s Day begins far earlier than you might have suspected. The day that’s all about heart shapes, Cupid arrows, chocolates and everything nice, dates from pagan times but also has its roots in Christianity and ancient Rome.

Valentine’s Day has its origins in the Roman festival, the Lupercalia, which celebrated the arrival of spring. On that day, men chose women with whom they would spend the day by sheer luck. This pagan  ceremony had a magical purpose, which was to purify, and to release health and fertility. Later on, this lottery tradition was broken by the Roman Pope who replaced it with what we know today as St. Valentine’s Day, to promote Christian values and purity.

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Saint Valentine was martyred and gave his life to love, and there is some controversy over  Valentines Day facts, as the stories behind it vary. There were a number of Valentines, of whom each could be associated with the origin of the holiday..

One story says that in the third century, young men were forbidden to marry. The Roman Emperor, Claudius II, outlawed marriage in order to build stronger, better soldiers, believing that single young men fought better. In his view, love stood in the way to success in war , but Valentine rebelled against this  law and married young couples in secret, for which he gave his life. Two centuries later, the 14th of February, the day on which he was beheaded, was proclaimed St. Valentine’s day.

Another version  tells us that Valentine had fallen in love himself, with a young girl who visited him during confinement. Supposedly, he was the first to send a love letter to her, a symbol of love that so many give to their lovers today in the form of Valentine cards. The love was of a forbidden kind and once the letter got into the wrong hands, Valentine was captured and  beheaded, sacrificing his life for professing his emotions to the girl he loved.


Valentine’s Day Traditions

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There are many St. Valentine’ facts and stories, but Valentine’s Day as we know it today is associated with courtly love and the 14th century. It was during this period that celebrations of St. Valentine  reached enormous popularity among young men, and  when lovers expressed affection by giving romantic gifts such as we give today, for example flowers, chocolates and Valentine cards.

Right up to the present day, this festival of romance has been celebrated by  professing and showing love to someone we care about by lavishing them with affection and gifts.. The traditional ways of celebrating love, such as Valentine  cards or flowers remain, but lovers have invented new and original ways to show how much they care, like singing serenades, giving personalised gifts or celebrating their love at a romantic dinner.Although Valentine’s Day history is tragic and a bit dark, today it is celebrated lightheartedly, with romance, kisses, and hugs. Its timeless symbols,  hearts, doves and Cupid arrows, are considered to be the classic symbols of hopeless romantics, and are still part of our modern interpretation of Valentine’s Day.

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Perhaps this year Valentine’s Day isn’t shaping up to be the day of unmitigated romance and excitement you had been hoping for – it’s possible you are in a relationship that is faltering, one that has lost its spark – perhaps you are even newly single. So this could be the year that what is really going to make the difference is to finally fall in love with who you are!


Attract Love By Loving Yourself First

Everybody wants to be loved. Deeply, madly loved, free of uncertainty and fear. Love is the greatest ideal and when we don’t have it, we feel empty. We believe love is to be found in other people; that emptiness we feel stems from loneliness. We fall for someone and give them our all, only to discover our vulnerability has been taken advantage of and here we are, feeling underappreciated and unworthy once again. Self-love is the key to a healthy relationship, but how to love yourself when experience tells you that you are hard to love?

We find it easy to love someone else’s quirks. We respect their boundaries because we know how important that is for their wellbeing and for maintaining a fulfilling relationship. We offer support and are generous with our feelings. But why are those beautiful intentions never reflected back to us?

Here are the big questions. Can we really give and receive love if we don’t love our own quirks first? Can we love from a safe place if we don’t respect our own needs and boundaries? Why are we so open to forgiving and loving others, but not ourselves? We are angry at ourselves, we feel lonely, feel pain and fear we are not good enough. We are the needy ones, the over-the-top ones, the unstable, the anxious. The list goes on. But what would happen if we attached those positive emotions to our own self instead of projecting them onto the other?


Love would.

The path to real love isn’t about perfection. It’s about you.


Self-love attracts love. As corny as it sounds, the reality is that we get what we think we deserve. The mind is a powerful thing. It will create scenarios that will make us indulge in our own drama over and over again, recreating what we have made ourselves  believe. That is why we must learn how to practice self love and acceptance.

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Any time something goes wrong in a relationship, we feel so compelled to criticise ourselves. Finding flaws in what we do, think or say easily turns into our reality, and we become plagued by anxiety. The good news is this self-criticism can be turned into something positive called self-empowerment, where we direct the same energy we use for self-criticism towards self-acceptance. This is what self love psychology is all about. The good news is, love is already within, we only need to learn to see it. So how about we care about our own feelings and needs a bit for a change? How about we take back our power to create the love life we deserve, instead of settling for less?

We are constantly trying to improve ourselves for others, trying to be a better friend or partner. We want to be the perfect version of someone’s soulmate, and in the process, we forget what we need and what sets our soul on fire. We are so afraid that we won’t be accepted for who we are, but unless we become unapologetically ourselves, we will never attract the kind of love that feeds our soul and fulfills us without violating our being. To learn how to attract love energy, we must first feel it inside in order to summon it into our lives.

What’s so compelling about someone who loves themselves is the power they have over who they are. They own their personality and know flaws don’t define who someone is. When we know we deserve honesty and loyalty, we know exactly when to leave a situation if it’s not serving us. When an emotional vampire drains our energy, we love ourselves enough to know it’s time to leave. Once we start feeling good with who we are both inside and out, we take back the responsibility to make ourselves happy and never settle for less. Valentine’s and Valentine’s Day traditions are all about love, so when the 14th of February comes, may it also be a day of celebrating self-love. You deserve it. And now you have a couple of upcoming articles to look forward to, filled with practical solutions that will give you a boost, body and soul, complete with techniques that include love spells and mantras!

Any time something goes wrong in a relationship, we feel so compelled to criticise ourselves. Finding flaws in what we do, think or say easily turns into our reality, and we become plagued by anxiety. The good news is this self-criticism can be turned into something positive called self-empowerment, where we direct the same energy we use for self-criticism towards self-acceptance. This is what self love psychology is all about. The good news is, love is already within, we only need to learn to see it. So how about we care about our own feelings and needs a bit for a change? How about we take back our power to create the love life we deserve, instead of settling for less?

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We are constantly trying to improve ourselves for others, trying to be a better friend or partner. We want to be the perfect version of someone’s soulmate, and in the process, we forget what we need and what sets our soul on fire. We are so afraid that we won’t be accepted for who we are, but unless we become unapologetically ourselves, we will never attract the kind of love that feeds our soul and fulfills us without violating our being. To learn how to attract love energy, we must first feel it inside in order to summon it into our lives.

What’s so compelling about someone who loves themselves is the power they have over who they are. They own their personality and know flaws don’t define who someone is. When we know we deserve honesty and loyalty, we know exactly when to leave a situation if it’s not serving us. When an emotional vampire drains our energy, we love ourselves enough to know it’s time to leave. Once we start feeling good with who we are inside and out, we take back the responsibility to make ourselves happy and never settle for less. Valentines and valentines days traditions are all about love, so when the 14th of February comes, may it also be a day of celebrating self-love. You deserve it.


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